Monday Motivation: “Fault” vs. “Responsibility”
Monday Motivation, 9.4.18
Written by: Stacy Tolbert
Every Monday, The Rogers-Long Team meets for one of its two weekly meetings. The Monday meeting always ends with “Monday Motivation” in which a few minutes are spent listening to one team member presenting a quote, a quick reading from a book, a scene from a movie, or anything else they find motivating to provide a “spark” to the whole team on a Monday morning.
Fault vs. Responsibility
Are you willing to be responsible, or is it just not your fault?
The blame game: one of society’s favorite games where everyone gets to play but no one ever wins. When there is fault you get to blame others for a set of circumstances, the condition of something or the reason why a task is not completed. It gives you a sense of relief that the burden is not your responsibility, but in the end, it is. Why? Because life isn’t fair – that’s why. We need to realize that if it’s our fault, their fault or no one’s fault we are still responsible for what happens next. Whatever may or may not have happened will still need to be completed or remedied and placing blame is not the solution: even if you are right and no amount of yelling will take care of the problem either.
Many of the examples Will Smith expresses in this dialogue deals with delicate issues like: an abusive parent, an alcoholic parent/spouse, a cheating spouse. Each are appalling but he warns of not playing into the victim mentality. Because once you are free from a serious circumstance, like the examples given above, you become responsible for your happiness. Living through abuse can not become your crutch where you get to blame everyone else for an unhappy life. This is when you seize control, take some responsibility and live the life you want.
In no way do I want to take from the seriousness of the circumstances listed previously but we need to recognize how this happens, the blame game, on a regular basis in our day-to-day. For instance, a co-worker failed to turn in the data from last year’s sales, but you need to present it to the “big boss” tomorrow. Sure, it’s their fault but guess what, the “big boss” doesn’t care and still wants to see the report. Now, and undoubtedly not happy about it, you must collect and analyze the data because in the end, the report needs to be completed.
We are all at fault at some point for something because we’re human. Bad things happen, but it is what you do in response to when the ball is dropped or a horrific event happens. Stop playing the blame game, no one wins. Recognize the fault, learn from it, create a plan and move forward, that is your responsibility.
Stacy Tolbert, The Transaction Coordinator for The Rogers-Long Team: Powered by Hometown Realty, was a client of Ben & Kevin’s in 2015. After hiring The RLT for her family’s move, Ben returned the favor and hired her to come work with the team! Stacy’s primary role is coordinating transactions from contract to close. In addition, Stacy assists in the marketing of listings and a wide array of other things in and out of the office. In her spare time, you can find Stacy working in the garden, tasting Craft Beer, or managing her three fantasy football teams!