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Monday Motivation: Look For The Lessons

Monday Motivation: Look For The Lessons

Monday Motivation, 2.17.2020

Written by: Stacy Tolbert

Every Monday, The Rogers-Long Team meets for one of its two weekly meetings. The Monday meeting always ends with “Monday Motivation” in which a few minutes are spent listening to one team member presenting a quote, a quick reading from a book, a scene from a movie, or anything else they find motivating to provide a “spark” to the whole team on a Monday morning.

This morning I’m going to share a story from a bright young lady that used to work for/with me at Papyrus. She always had a spark to her, big dreams and the secret weapon, the drive to accomplish them. At some point our paths separated but through the power of social media we are still virtually connected. On her last birthday she wrote something that struck me, and I saved it knowing that I would like to share it for my MM.


“Fear is nothing more than patterns that our subconscious minds have learned.

But, like a computer, our subconscious can be reprogrammed.

So to push past my fears, I’ve been working on rewriting my brain by

?taking full responsibility for myself and my actions,

?facing the negative, invisible scripts I’ve created in my life and replacing them with positive + productive scripts,

?being willing to try things I’m not 100% confident I can do (yet!),

?not quitting when things are difficult,

?asking for help when I need it, and by

?making mistakes and failing so I can implement what I learn.

We tend to brush off failure, explain it away, justify it, and avoid it because it forces emotions to the surface we’d rather not deal with.

Maybe regret? Embarrassment? Sadness? Remorse? Even anger?

Acknowledging these emotions was my first step to healing the pain attached to them—pain that kept me stuck in a debilitating cycle of avoidance.

Introspection is haaard,

but, as someone I admire pointed out, there are lessons to be learned in every emotion we experience, and NOTHING is wasted in this life if we make the time to look for these lessons.

Which means no failure is a waste.

Not a single one.

My failures have made me a better Christian, wife, mother, friend, mentor, and leader.”

-Swift, Amanda

I think what stood out to me in her post was a lot of the same ideas we repeat/reiterate here in our office, showing yet again that we are in control of what happens. One of my favorite takeaways is that it is ok to embrace the emotions, acknowledge them but it comes time to let them go and allow it to help you grow, become better.

Lastly, the blurb at the end regarding fear is spot-on, “Nothing is wasted in this life if we make the time to look for the lessons”. To me this means that everything we experience can/should be a lesson as this is how we continue to learn and correct our actions as needed. Keep reprogramming your brain for the better.

Stacy Tolbert, The Transaction Coordinator for The Rogers-Long Team: Powered by Hometown Realty, was a client of Ben & Kevin’s in 2015. After hiring The RLT for her family’s move, Ben returned the favor and hired her to come work with the team! Stacy’s primary role is coordinating transactions from contract to close. In her spare time, you can find Stacy working in the garden, tasting Craft Beer, or managing her three fantasy football teams!


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